Hi Gail,
Thanks for your post. I totally understand you frustration in dealing with this issue. Windows 11 has provided the option to notify end user for a restart and set the available time to restart.
Kindly locate to the following: Setting-> Windows Update->Advanced options. Turn on the option ‘Notify me when a restart is required to finish updating’. Also, you can set the desired update period in ‘Active hours’.
Best Regards,
Ian Xue
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